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Writer's pictureDarshika Singh

Exploring the Psychology of Rudeness And How to Respond with Kindness

Hey there, fellow human! Today, I want to have a heart-to-heart about something that's been on my mind: why people sometimes act mean or rude. Let's talk about rudeness, something we all experience at some point. You know those times when someone is mean or unpleasant for no reason? It's hard not to feel hurt, isn't it? But here's the important part – it's not always about you.


I used to be someone who always looked at the positive side of things, who believed people were good. But then, something unexpected happened, and I started feeling a bit depressed. Suddenly, everything seemed gloomy and I couldn't understand why people could be so mean.


As I dealt with my own problems, I learned something important – people aren't mean because they want to hurt you. No, their actions often show the struggles they're facing inside. Just like how my depression made me easily annoyed and quick to snap, others might be going through their own tough times.


Think about it – when someone is mean to you, it's usually because they're dealing with their own feelings of not being good enough or being really angry. Maybe they've told themselves they're not worth caring about or they don't deserve love. It's a sad cycle that keeps spreading negativity. Just like I found myself being rude as a way to protect myself from rejection, others may lash out because they're hurting inside.


But here's some good news – you don't have to let their meanness get to you. You can decide to see it as a sign of their own hurt. It doesn't make their behavior okay, but it helps you realize that it's not about you.


And if you notice yourself being mean to others, it's a good time to think about why. What are you trying to defend yourself from? Are you acting this way because you're scared or not feeling confident? Once you figure out what's really going on, you can begin to be kinder – to yourself and to others.


I understand it's hard. It takes time and work to stop thinking negatively. But believe me, it's worth trying. Begin by being nicer to yourself. When you think bad things about yourself, try to change those thoughts into positive ones about how great you are.


Just remember, you're a good person and you deserve love – from others and from yourself. So when someone is mean to you, don't let it get you down. Instead, silently wish them well and try to be kind. And keep in mind, being nice always pays off in the end.

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Robin Saitan
Mar 24

Happy Holi mam

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