Have you ever found yourself sacrificing your own happiness for the sake of others? I certainly have. It took a moment of self-reflection for me to realize that this self-sacrifice wasn't healthy. Doing things out of love and a genuine desire to help is one thing, but doing them out of fear or the need for validation is an entirely different story.
I understood that this shift was not only crucial for my well-being but also essential for attracting healthier relationships. People can sense the energy you emit, and when you start doing things for yourself, they appreciate you for who you truly are.
Letting go of unhealthy relationships is no easy feat. The resistance we face can be overwhelming, triggered by a simple call, thought, or memory. The ego craves instant gratification, while the soul knows that something better awaits us. To move forward, we must do the work and move through the resistance.
If you're contemplating letting someone go, ask yourself some essential questions:
How do you feel in their presence: drained or alive?
Does the person prioritize your best interests?
Do they belittle you when you share your feelings?
Do promises go unfulfilled?
If the last two questions resonate with you, it might be time to create space in your life for healthier, happier relationships.
Letting go can be daunting, but it's a favor not only to yourself but also to the other person. By releasing them, you open up space for them to find someone who is a better energetic match.
To aid in this process, here are a few practices I've incorporated into my daily life:
Express Your Feelings in a Letter: Focus on one draining relationship, pour your feelings onto paper, and end the letter with, "I release you across all space and time." Burn and bury the letter to signify complete release.
Clear Your Physical Space: Sell or donate gifts, burn letters, and clear your physical space. Remember, this is crucial to moving on and feeling happier with yourself and your life.
Get Clear on What You Need: Write down how you want to feel in your life and relationships. For example, I aspire for my life to feel alive, filled with laughter, supportive, loving, and understanding.
Start Filling the Empty Space: Create a list of activities that align with your desired feelings. Dedicate time to your passions every day, and as you do, the right people will naturally come into your life.
Remember, when you try to let go, the other person might reach out more than usual. Have an open and honest conversation about your decision and do what's best for you.
It may seem overwhelming, but take it one step at a time. Acknowledge the emotions that arise, remind yourself of why you decided to move on, and embrace the courage to let go of your past. Make room for your best life to unfold, living beyond your wildest imagination.
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